Isn’t that great news, 2015 is the Year of Manifesting. People are very excited by this news, and well they should be. But do you know how to manifest? It is not as easy as some would have you believe. It is not simply wishing for something and bang, there it is. Like everything else in life, it takes a bit of know how and a bit of work, especially if you want to get it right. What do I mean by get it right? Don’t you just ask and then receive? Well, yes and no, especially if you do not care about consequences. So what does that mean, consequences, how can there be consequences to getting what you ask for?
I am sure you must all have heard the saying, “be careful what you ask for, you just might get it”. What this means, is that there is a way to manifest and a way not to manifest, and unfortunately for some, both ways work. So lets start with the “negative”, examples of what you don’t want to do and then turn them into a “positive”.
Let’s take the story of a friend of mine, I will call him Sonny (not his real name). Sonny decided he wanted a car, that he needed a car, and just had to have a car. That in itself is not a bad thing, we all want things from time to time, no judgement. But Sonny believed that all he had to do to get the car was put his wish out into the universe and he would get a car. And he is correct, that is how manifesting works. However, Sonny did not give any thought as to how that car he wanted might come to him, again, something we as humans commonly do. Remember however, things do not just pop out of thin air and bang, there it is.
Sonny got a call one day from his father saying that Sonny’s uncle, hearing that he wanted a car, just dropped off a car at the house for him. Sonny was delighted. He hopped on the bus and rushed over to see the car. It was beautiful. It was. It was nearly perfect and he loved it immediately. He did notice that there was a small dent in the bumper on the passenger side but knew that a mechanic could get that out in no time. He ran into the house to thank his uncle, still not giving much thought as to why this car was coming into his life. He even loved the colour – green. When he thanked his uncle, his uncle looked at him and gave his a small smile and said he hoped it would bring him luck. Then Sonny felt the pit of his stomach drop out, and his intuition told him, that there was something not right here. Up to this point, he had not even questioned why his uncle was bringing him this car, he was just excited to be getting one.
He sat down across from his uncle and realized that his uncle had been crying. He asked him why. His uncle told Sonny that his cousin had been out driving the car three nights ago and had hit a person crossing the street. It had been dark, the person was wearing black, and she didn’t see him until it was too late to stop. The person died in the hospital the next day, and she doesn’t want anything to do with the car and insisted that her dad get rid of it. The uncle told Sonny that he heard he was looking for a car so he brought it over for him.
Now before you jump to the conclusion that I believe that the death of this pedestrian was Sonny’s fault because he wished for a car – no that is not what I believe and it is not what I am saying. That accident was going to happen anyway, but the car would have been disposed of in some other way and not been given to Sonny. I am simply trying to illustrate that when we are attempting to manifest something, we have to be very specific about what it is we want and how it comes to us. There are so many other ways that Sonny could have manifested the car he wanted. He could have asked for a job that would give him a company car, or a job that provided him with a salary good enough to buy one, or, or, or, or. But he didn’t. He simply put it out there that he wanted a car, and a car is what he got.
I have asked a lot of people about their new year resolution. A lot are saying that they are looking for love. They want a love life this year. They want to meet someone, fall in love, get married and have some kids. Hey, that is a common thing to want, not unusal at all. But the point is they are not being specific in what they are trying to manifest. And as such may have to pay heed to the phrase “be careful what you ask for, you just might get it”.
There are all sorts of love out there, and not all of them are good for us. Ask anyone in an abusive relationship, or anyone being stalked by an ex-lover, or anyone in a co-dependent relationship. They will tell you that they once loved that person and that the person loves them in their own way. Love comes in many forms, so to just simply say that you want to meet someone, fall in love, get married and have some kids, is opening the door to all of those forms of love. You have to know exactly what kind of love your are looking for. Myself, I am working on manifesting a “healthy, loving relationship,” one based on mutual respect, understanding, humour, intellect, support and as much unconditional love as is possible. I even have to be careful using the word “healthy” so I do not end up with a love that is a fitness nut and expects the same of me. Do you see the difference?
There are a lot of people out there that will love you, but is it the kind of love that you want? When manifesting, be sure of what it is you want, and be clear when you ask for it, otherwise you might end up with a car that has accidently killed someone.
So whether you are manifesting a new job, a new love, a new home, a new car, better health, a skinner body, or any of the other 20 millon other things out there that we as humans dream of having, it is wise to be specific in your request. When manifesting, I always include the phrase, “or something better, but whatever comes, plesase send what is in my highest good”. You really can’t go too wrong with that. Happy New Year, and happy manifesting.