I recently saw a quote by an Unknown Author, “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” This is very sage advice. It is also a reminder that we should make ourselves our top priority. If we do not do so, if we do not practice “good self care”, then we are not in a position to be of assistance to anyone else. It is also a reminder that we are worthy of being a priority, not only to ourselves, but to others as well.
By allowing someone to keep you as an option rather than a priority, you are telling them that you are not worthy, that you are disposable, you are telling them that they have all the power in the relationship, you are telling them that they are more deserving of respect than you are. A relationship that is building on inequality is an unequal relationship. Remember always – you are worthy, you are deserving, you are equal and you are not an “option” in anyone’s eyes.